Relationships, Ugh

Do I allow myself to waste time with people? This is very much on my mind this morning as I look at my calendar for the week and see how I am “investing” my time. Getting over the hurdle of seeing prayer as a waste of time took years, but now I stop to look at my relationships with others. When I get home from wherever, and my roommate is studying and wants to tell me something that happened to her that day, and all I want is a gin and tonic, what is it that makes me stop to listen? Do I worry so much about the end goal of the conversation that I am not present in it at all? Do I allow the other in? Or do I simply consume, ask the other, “What can you give me?” and, if the answer seems to be “nothing,” do I consider myself a martyr for giving up my precious time to engage with the person? 

Over the next few days I’ll be looking at these ideas– wasted time and wasting time. To be continued.


2 thoughts on “Relationships, Ugh

  1. This from Pope Francis:
    “When I hear the confession of a young married man or woman, and they refer to their son or daughter, I ask, ‘How many children do you have?’ and they tell me. Maybe they’re expecting another question after that, but I always ask, ‘And tell me, do you play with your children? Do you waste time with your children?’”
    “The free gift of a parent’s time is so important.”

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